情商就是我们平时说的EQ，EQ是Emotional Quotient的英文缩写，汉语意思是“情绪智慧”或“情绪智商”，简称情商。它代表的是一个人的情绪智力（Emotional Intelligence）的能力。简单的说，EQ是一个人自我情绪管理以及管理他人情绪的能力指数 ,主要是指人在情绪、意志、耐受挫折等方面的品质.

情商的高低，确实会对我们的人生产生不同的影响。俗话说“性格决定命运”，其实这句话的内核，就是情商高低的作用转化

那么我们如何来提高自己的情商呢？总体来讲，我们想要提高我们的情商，就要提高以下五个方面：

提高自我认知情绪的能力：就是要了解自身情绪，情感和内心驱动力，以及对他人的印象的能力

Improve the ability of self-awareness of emotions: the ability to pick up their own emotions, emotions and internal driving forces, as well as the impression of others

我们想提高自己的情商，就得知道自己的脾性，有意识地控制和疏导自己的负面情绪，不会任由这种情绪影响自己和外界的关系，不能不分场合把自己的情绪都展现在脸上，影响他人.

If we want to improve our EQ, we need to know our own temperament, consciously control and dredge our negative emotions, not allow them to affect our relationship with the outside world, and not show our emotions on our faces and affect others

提高自我管理情绪的能力：也就是要控制或者疏导负面情绪的能力

Improve the ability of self-management of emotions: that is, the ability to control or channel negative emotions

我们要满身正能量，多交一些正能量的朋友，跟这些人一起你会感受到他们身上散发出的轻松，积极，热情的情绪，而不能动不动就抱怨，把消极的负面情绪挂在口中，这样很容易影响到对事情的判断.

We should be full of positive energy and make more positive energy friends. With these people, you will feel the relaxed, positive and enthusiastic emotions emanating from them. Instead of complaining and hanging negative emotions in your mouth, it is easy to affect the judgment of things

要有自我激励的内在能力：也就是以成就感为动力，追求超越自身和他人期望的目标

Have the inner ability of self motivation: that is, take the sense of achievement as the driving force to pursue the goal beyond the expectation of oneself and others

遇到挫折，我们要勇敢面对，遇强则强，不要轻易被困难所击倒，不能一旦受到挫折就陷入消极的情绪中. 要保持平常心

When encountering setbacks, we should face them bravely. When encountering difficulties, we should be strong. We should not be easily knocked down by difficulties. Once encountering setbacks, we should not fall into the mood of subtotal. We should keep calm

生活本来就不是一帆风顺的，遇到困难也是正常的，就像 这个杀手不太冷中的里昂和马蒂尔德的那段对话

Is life always this hard? Or is it just when you are a kid?

人生总是那么痛苦吗？还是只是小时候是这样

Always like this. 总是如此

提高认知他人情绪的能力：也就是理解他人情绪，视他人情感反应待人换物的能力

Improve the ability to recognize other people's emotions: that is, the ability to understand other people's emotions and react to others' emotions to change things

也就是我们说的多为他人照想，与人方便就是与己方便，要及时察觉到对方情绪的变化，然后自己想好怎么应对，控制好自己的言行.通常很多人都是以自己的意愿出发，不考虑对方的感受.

That is to say, to be more considerate of others is to be more convenient with yourself. Even if you are aware of the change of each other's mood, you should think about how to deal with it and control your words and deeds. Usually many people start with their own will and don't consider each other's feelings

提高社交技能的管理能力：就是一种寻找与他人的共同点，建立融洽关系的能力

Improve the management ability of social skills: it is a kind of ability to find common ground with others and to have a harmonious relationship with resumes

通常来讲，人际关系是最难处理的，因为人与人的性格不一样，要找到共同点就需要双方相互理解这就要求我们运用社交技巧，释放善意，懂得包容，跟别人打好交道.

Generally speaking, interpersonal relationships are the most difficult to deal with, because people have different personalities. To find common ground, we need mutual understanding, which requires us to use social skills, release goodwill, understand tolerance, and deal with others well

人生不如意事十之八九，怎么对待这些不如意的事，很大程度上取决于我们用什么样的 方式去处理它们，所以，懂得怎么提高自己的情商，掌控自己的情商，是我们每个人的必修课，希望这篇文章对大家有所帮助.